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These past two weeks have been vividly reminiscent of the two weeks following my initial breast cancer diagnosis, except that this time I already know the motions, the procedures, the vocabulary and the doctors. It is more in the form of negotiation where I am asked what’s good for me instead of being told, talked to instead of at, and I already have a relationship with the nurses, doctors and even some of the imagining technicians. I know how to get there, where to go, what they call it (for example, the Medical Office Building is actually the MOB), the best place to park, what I need to bring, and how long I’m going to have to wait.
This time, just like last time, all of the driving, calling, meeting, discussing, scanning, picking up and waiting, waiting, waiting is taking up all my time; but this time, it is also taking up all my energy. This time the mystery, strangeness and gargantuan amount of new information has been replaced by repetition, familiarity and crystal clear understanding. The adrenalin stopped pumping a long time ago; now I’m just kind of stressed and my left eye won’t stop twitching.
Today, however, provided something new, different, interesting and quite strange. Today I got a spur of the moment operation where I not only got to stay awake and see the rather large hole cut into my breast (although I did not get to watch the procedure), but also got to handle the tissue removed and squeeze the lump literally between my fingers, outside of my breast!
When I went in to Dr. Duponts office in Lakeland, I thought Dr. Dupont was going to examine me, look at the ultrasound and mammogram films, talk to me about options for the next step and then schedule me for something either this week or next week. And she did examine me, look at the films and present options, but she also stated her discomfort with the lump and told me that she had pulled a tech from the medical procedure building across the street that could preform an ultrasound guided needle core biopsy on me today if I wanted. She told me that the lump felt dissimilar to the rest of the scar tissue in the area and that it shared characteristics of the original tumor. She said that for those reasons she believed that the biopsy would show that it was a cancerous tumor and that in that case she could recommend an excellent plastic surgeon named Paul that could preform a mastectomy with reconstruction. He is, she said, literally an artist, a sculptor, “He’s got the eye; he does beautiful work. The best. The best.”
Unfortunately, however the surgery would not be preformed for another three weeks. She said that she likes to wait for at least a month after chemotherapy is over to preform such a major surgery. This made me feel antsy. I hated the idea of leaving that thing in there for another three weeks if it proved to be more cancer. Dr. Dupont, the wonderfully perceptive woman that she is, could clearly see that I did not like the idea of waiting, and since she is as warm, caring and empathetic as she is perceptive, she understood completely.
I went into the procedure room so that Karen, the technician that Dr. Dupont brought over from across the street, could begin by trying to get a clear picture via ultrasound. Meanwhile, Dr. Dupont went out into the waiting room to let my mom know that we were going to do an ultrasound guided needle core biopsy. While she was telling my mom everything that she had told me, she told my mom that I clearly did not like the idea of having to wait a couple of weeks for a mastectomy if the biopsy came back positive for cancer, which, she told my mom, she felt it would. My mom said something about how I wished there was some way I could just “pop it out,” and Dr. Dupont, my mom told me later, kind of lit up and said, “Oh, that’s what I’ll do! I’ll be back in a few minutes.” She then came into the procedure room while Karen was ultrasounding my breast and asked if I just wanted it taken out right then and there. “Uh… Yes,” I said, uncertain of exactly what that would entail, but knowing that I didn’t want the thing in there. “Ok,” replied Dr. Dupont, “We’ll get it out of there then. Donna,” she said to her head nurse, “please prepare a cart,” then she turned to me and said, “I’m going to go let your mom know what we’ve decided to do.”
Ten minutes later Dr. Dupont came back in the room decked out in her surgery garb, just like she had been for my lumpectomy at Moffit, and explained that she was going to use local anesthesia and avoid getting blood on my pants, which she was glad weren’t white.
The anesthesia injections were rather uncomfortable… somewhat painful, actually… and she had to apply a lot of them because I have dense breast tissue, but it was probably much less painful to get the injections than it would have been to have the lump cut out without any anesthesia, so I didn’t mind. When she started sticking the needle into the many necessary areas she said, “Now this is going to hurt a bit, and that’s allowed, but if at any point after this you feel anything at all, you let me know because that’s not allowed and we’ll put an abrupt stop to that. We don’t want that. Discomfort during the procedure is strictly prohibited.”
The procedure itself was very strange. When she first started cutting into me I could kind of feel it, so she gave me more injections. Then a while later, while she was snip, snip, snipping away at the area around the lump I could feel a cutting pressure again (she went pretty deep) and I got even MORE injections. She ended up injecting four bottles of local anesthetic between the beginning and end of the procedure, at which point she injected a bottle of stronger stuff to tide me over until I got home. She also rinsed the cavity with an entire bottle of anesthetic at the end before she sewed me up. Mind you, these were NOT small bottles.
The first really weird thing was when she would make a cut with the scalpel or a snip with the scissors and I could feel the warm blood flowing down my side, and then when she would pull at something and I could feel blood oozing out, overflowing and spilling into the sterile area around me. It felt like a lot, although she had said before she started that she didn’t think there would be any crisis of blood loss and she never seemed particularly upset about the amount of blood, so I guess it wasn’t too much.
It was very strange to feel her pulling the whole time; first cutting through my skin and pulling it to the sides; then cutting through my tissues and pulling more and more to each side with each little “snip” of her little scissors; then, when she finally cut out the entire chunk that she wanted, I could feel the hole being pushed open with the little tongs to allow for a better view of the inside. I could feel her fingers inside the cavity, searching for any other abnormalities. I could feel it when she was stuffing the gauze in there to sop up the blood and then when she pulled out the drenched wads when she was ready to continue working. I could feel when she was pressing the cauterizer into me, into my tissues, trying to stop the bleeding while literally singeing me to well done on the inside… it is a very strange thing indeed to smell yourself cooking.
But it only hurt in the very beginning, before all of the cutting, pulling, burning and stitching, when she stuck the needle in me. And now. It hurts now. I’ve taken pain pills but it still hurts, probably partially because of the existent nerve damage; things tend to hurt my right side/breast/arm more than on the left side because the nerves are all still funky from surgery back in October. Also, she was cutting, pulling, burning, internally probing and stitching my boob, so that probably has something to do with it.
It was also quite strange to handle my own breast tissue. After she finished cutting and before she stated cauterizing she showed me the chunk she took out, which was surprisingly large, marked it for the lab and then, after Donna put a glove on my left hand, handed it to me. It was very cold, which surprised me, and mostly devoid of blood. After a little bit of massaging it between my fingers I could clearly feel where the lump was, which was a very, very small part of the chunk; at least we know she got good margins.
While she was probing around in my breast, after we had put the chunk of tissue into a cup with some type of liquid in it to be sent off to the lab, she said to Karen and Donna, “Huh, it looks like there’s a little blue dome cyst in there. Do you see that? I think it’s a blue dome cyst.” I suddenly envisioned the inside of my breast as a kind of aquatic cave full of beautiful, fascinating sea creatures. “I have a cyst?” I asked. “Yup. That’s what it looks like” she said, and I pictured some kind of bright, flowing sea anemone dwelling in the newly created cavity.
I couldn’t help it, and before she was finished I asked if I could see. She said yes and Donna got a mirror. Dr. Dupont had been cauterizing for a few minutes at this point and, while I was looking in the mirror, she said, “As you can see, that’s the pool of blood I’m trying to get under control. This over here,” she circled with her finger, “is normal fibroid breast tissue, and this,” she pointed, “is the cyst. You probably can’t really appreciate it right now, but it’s there.” “Yeah,” I answered, “at this point it just kind of looks like part of the landscape.” It was, after all, the first time I’d ever seen the inside of a breast. It wasn’t exactly an aquatic wonderland, but it did have some of the qualities of a cave; there were the nooks and crannies, the rocks and ledges and, of course, the pool of water… well, blood, if you want to be technical about it, but it could have just been the reflection of the cave’s red rock walls making the water look like blood.
During the entire procedure Karen, Donna and Dr. Dupont all kept me and one another engaged in conversation. I wondered a few times if that’s what it is like during surgery when the patient is under, if they talk about their pets and remodeling their kitchens and what not. Karen asked me at one point if I was still doing ok. I said yes, and she told me that she has found, as a person who had undergone a lot of serious dental work without any kind of anesthesia due to severe allergic reactions, that with pain it really does come down to mind over matter and that if you can distract yourself from what is really going on it won’t bother you as much. To be honest, though, I liked knowing what was going on and probably wouldn’t have minded watching.
Dr. Dupont felt that the area of the lump looked very much like scar tissue, and she said that she was hopeful that that’s what it would turn out to be. She told me that while the cosmetic result is going to be a little less pleasing than it was before, it is better to have the lump out of there, even if it is just scar tissue. I agreed and told her that, at this point, I prefer a type 2 error any day.
The chunk will be sent off to the lab Thursday (tomorrow) and we should have the results by Monday or Tuesday. I feel that Dr. Dupont is extremely knowledgeable and very perceptive, so I share in her hopefulness, but I am also not giving myself over to hope entirely because I don’t want to risk feeling cheated and extremely disappointed.
In any case, here’s to hoping.
Written 03-23-08
I first noticed an unfortunate indentation in the surgery area on February 22 while my mom and I were at the Jacksonville Hyatt Regency for the Young Survivors Coalition conference. I was disappointed that the side of my breast had sunken in almost five months after surgery, and I was less than pleased with the overall cosmetic appearance of it, but I figured it was better than having cancer and decided to just be done with it.
Over the course of the following couple of weeks I found myself critically assessing the long dimpled area in the mirror, wondering what any future Mr. Joey B’s would think of my poor, scarred, misshapen ex-beauty queen breast. I decided that it really wasn’t of any immediate importance because, in all honesty, I am not anticipating becoming involved in any such relationships any time in the foreseeable future. So, with apathetic flourish, I gave up on critical self assessments and dissatisfaction.
Meanwhile I had been scouring the internet for information regarding young women with breast cancer for a research project I am doing for my Social Constructions of Reality course. Through my searches I have stumbled upon many personal stories and memoirs of young women breast cancer survivors who found out that, in the end, they would not survive. One of these stories was from a woman living with metastatic disease, which, as I have mentioned before, is when the breast cancer travels to other organs, the bones, blood or soft tissues. In this woman’s story, she found a lump in the area of her breast that the lumpectomy was preformed. Her doctor brushed it off as scar tissue and told her not to worry about it. Well, she worried about it anyway and found out later on that not only did she have a new tumor in the same area, but that the breast cancer had metastasized to her liver and bones.
Naturally these kinds of stories play on the mind of someone going through the same ordeal that these diseased, dying and dead women had, and one night while I lay in bed unable to sleep, as I have many nights as a side effect of chemotherapy premeds, I decided that rather than take Tylenol PM or count sheep, I ought to give myself a breast exam. My left breast, the whole, pristine, unscathed one, felt the same as it always has; no lumps, no scars, no tender areas. The other side, however, is different. As a lingering side effect of breast surgery and lymph node removal, I have had pain and tenderness in my right arm, underarm, side and breast due to nerve damage and irritation. I have been aware of an increase in this pain which I attributed partly to the Taxol, which has caused nerve damage in my arms, legs, hands and feet, leading me to believe that the increase in pain on my right side is not a big deal. But as my paranoid finger tips roved the altered landscape of my right breast, they stumbled upon a little hard spot.
“What is this?” my brain asked my fingertips.
“Feels like a pea,” the fingertips responded.
“What is a pea doing in there?” the brain demanded.
“Don’t know, but we can’t move it,” they told the brain.
“Perhaps it’s just scar tissue,” the brain rationalized.
“Perhaps,” answered the fingertips, “but this consistency sure does feel familiar, and we’ve never felt scar tissue before.”
“But we’re still on chemotherapy,” the brain retorted, “and couldn’t possibly be growing any new cancer already. We haven’t even read any stories about that kind of thing happening. You fingertips are too paranoid.”
“Sure thing, boss,” the fingertips conceded. But the fingertips couldn’t stop touching the area, no matter how many times the rational brain insisted that it was nothing.
I mean, seriously, I was still on chemo!
But even so, it is the case that under circumstances such as cancer, the rational mind has been known to become irrational. For example, a recurring headache for a week is no longer a question of whats in the air, it is a question of whether or not the cancer has spread to the brain. And when blood starts coming out every time you blow your nose, it goes from questioning what’s up with your sinuses to wondering how long you have to live before the cancer takes over your brain and kills you.
Thus the rational mind becoming irrational and then trying to rationalize away it’s paranoia has a tendency to work itself up into quite the tizzy. Knowing that this has been the case before, my mind decided to play it cool and not worry about the whole thing; my mind decided to be calm about it and wait until the next time I went to the chemo center to bring it up to anyone, and my mind felt validated when I mentioned it to the nurse who asked me the standard pre-chemo questions and she responded, “It’s probably just scar tissue, but we’ll have the doctor take a look at it.” My mind was glad that it didn’t get all silly and irrational and go calling the doctor first thing in the morning after I had found it.
That is, until the doctor took a look at it.
The doctor said that we needed to have it scanned right away, that she didn’t like the way the skin was dimpling. She wanted an ultrasound done ASAP. She wanted to know when I found it and why I didn’t call her immediately. Any new lumps, she said, needed to be brought to her attention right away.
And so on my last day of chemotherapy, on the day that I have been looking forward to since I woke up on October 5th, 2007 and was told that I would be needing chemotherapy because, yes, it was in my lymph nodes, I found myself feeling lost, empty, drained, disappointed and frightened. How would I do this all again? What would it mean? Would it mean that I can’t beat it? Would it mean that it was stronger than the strongest drugs they have to combat this kind of thing? Was I going to die from cancer? How could I die from cancer?
I was in a strange mood for the rest of the day, and that night I applied for life insurance policies. I thought that at least I would be able to leave something for my family, help them, give them something; but the next morning an insurance agent called and informed me that I wouldn’t be able to get a life insurance policy for three to five years after my last cancer treatment, and that if I got insurance between the third and fifth years that it would be very expensive.
I felt helpless, crushed and sad. I wondered how far I would be willing to go to get rid of it and what exactly “fighting till the bitter end” would entail. Would I be required to sacrifice quality of life to live an extra couple of days? Would I be able to do all of the things I wanted to do until I died? How would we deal with a blow like this? I’m already such a financial drain on my parents, and my money is almost all gone.
How would I tell my family? How could I possibly tell them?
These thoughts, along with thousands of other, similar thoughts swirled in torrents around my mind, through my night and day and in between.
We celebrated Carrie’s 22nd birthday on Saturday on a Suncruz Casino boat. She did fantastically on the slot machines, and we all had a wonderful time. For those few hours I didn’t think about it, didn’t worry about it, didn’t wonder and fret. I just laughed, played and had fun. But when we were home again and I was driving off in my car, it was all I could think about.
It is Easter Sunday now. I am scheduled for a PET/CT scan on Tuesday at 11am. Cancer patients are supposed to get one of those after they finish chemotherapy anyway to see if the cancer is all gone. I’m not sure when the doctor will call me with the results, but it feels like I can’t know soon enough. I haven’t told anyone about the lump or how concerned the doctor seemed because I don’t want anyone else to go through this slow, mind controlling, obsessive torture. We have been through a lot, my family and I, and I know that watching me go through this has been nearly as difficult as going through it, so I thought I should spare them and do all of the extra worrying myself.
Sometimes when I pass by a reflective surface of some sort and turn my head to look, I am taken aback by what peers back at me.
It is not me in there looking out, that is for certain. I am a vibrant, happy, fun loving sister/aunt/daughter/friend/girlfriend who has a full and enjoyable life and loves to do all kinds of stuff at all different times of the day with the people I love; but that person in the mirror — that person who could not possibly be me — has quite obviously had the life sucked out of them by some terrible turn of events.
The person in the mirror is pale and sickly, void of hair, eyebrows and eyelashes. They are alien — listless and lacking facial definition. I look at them in shock, bewildered at how they got in the mirror, but they wear only an expression of desperate and hopeless blankness, seemingly unable to register anything else, any other emotion, any emotion at all. Perhaps it is just I who cannot read the emotion on their alien face, though, so I concentrate harder.
I look into their eyes, their dull, tired, shadowed eyes, and I look for the life that I know is there, somewhere — it has to be — but I can’t see it… why can’t I see it?
